Monday, June 11, 2012

Venting {and Stress Eating}

Everything was going fine today


Gary received a nasty, long FB message from someone that he has chosen to keep at arms length.  He immediately sent me this message to read {you married folks know how this sort of stuff goes} and as I was reading it, one part completely stuck out to me.

This person used my infertility as a weapon in what they were writing, and even acknowledged that it was a dig.

I was stunned.

I am NOT surprised that this person would do such a thing, but it just blew me away that they would use something I have no control over as their weapon of choice.  

Now, I am not going to say I have never said mean things about people before.  That would be a lie.  But I would NEVER use a blind man's blindness against him.

If this person wanted to get me involved in what they wrote to Gary, call me a bitch, call me self centered, point out the flaws I CAN CHANGE, but don't use my infertility against us....that's just low.

My first reaction when this person spews their hatred {did you really think this is the first time we've had issues with this person?} is to reach for food.  Sweet, Salty, Crunchy, Soft, it doesn't matter.  It would all go into my mouth. The rest of the day & the next day!

Today, I did better.  I only let myself a small handful of some oven cooked chickpeas a coworker brought to share.  And I decided to write this blog post.  I am actively working on changing my habits with food and finding other ways to deal with my emotions.

Gary & I had been encouraging each other all weekend with the fact that we'd have to walk in close to 100 degree weather all this week {no bueno}.  In the past, when this person surfaced, our lives stopped for a few hours as we tried to figure out how to handle them.  Not today.  We took our walk as planned {even added a street to the walk} and let off steam as it fueled us to keep a quick pace.

Score 1 for Team Us!

As the ever so eloquent Christina Aguilera sang in her song "Fighter:"

"After all that you put me through,
You think I'd despise you,
But in the end I wanna thank you,
'Cause you've made me that much stronger"

This song has been on my workout playlist since the day it came out & it definitely applies to this situation!

***How do you deal with stress?***

PS - Please know I only posted this so publicly because, unless this person is actively stalking us, they have NO idea I blog.  I would never talk about a personal situation concerning someone I love & admire.


  1. This is digesting and you should block that person immediately! How ryde

  2. I'm sorry to hear this. Sorry you had such a bad encounter. Hoping today brings you cheer instead.

  3. For some reason my whole life has been a lazy binge lately. I haven't worked out since thursday and my appetite is unending!